Three Girls and a Driver: Trip to The Badlands

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Sometimes we bite off more than we can chew. To say we are adventurous is true; but, is traveling with Future Streamers* too huge of a bite for a West Airstream Adventure? It’s the first time we have taken our grandchildren on a road trip of this magnitude, so we were about to find out!

We have been Airstreaming since 2021, traveling across the country, enjoying our grandkids for sleepovers from time to time, but we have never traveled with them for days or weeks in the Airstream.

Until now.

  • (Aside, you can read A Little History at the end of this blog to learn about other road trips we have taken with our grandkids.)

Alison and Paige are our two oldest grandchildren, and the cousins haven’t seen each other for a couple of years since Paige’s family moved up north. Would they still be as compatible as they were when they could see each other more regularly? Would they even remember each other? Alison turned ten in March, so this is also a special gift for her “double-digit birthday,” from Nana and Yoda. Paige will be nine in November. Ten and eight seem like the perfect ages for a road trip.

We began a long journey a year and a half ago, living as full-time Airstreamers while our house is being built, and we are headed up north for the hot summer months. This seemed like the perfect opportunity to get the two cousins together since we will be traveling near Paige’s new home. It took quite a bit of pre-planning, coordinating with the parents, and ordering special things to make this a memorable vacation. If we never take them on another road trip, they should remember this one for the rest of their lives.

We picked up Alison in Texas, took her with us on a three day journey to pick up Paige in Iowa, and stopped to see some sites along the way. When we picked up Paige, apparently it was a surprise! She knew she was going on a trip with us, but didn’t know Alison was going too! What a great reunion for them both. After a visit with the family, we drove from Iowa to The Badlands in South Dakota. We stayed at the KOA in Interior, SD, which is only a few miles from the Visitor Center.

From there we went to Pierre, where we visited the State Capitol, (see my previous blog about that), then on to Sioux Falls SD where we ended our trip. I flew home with Alison (her first plane ride), and Tim took Paige home in the truck.

After that, we slept for two days πŸ˜‚.

Ever since my cancer diagnosis (I hear this frequently from other cancer patients and survivors as well), I have a new perspective on life. We only have one life to live, so my motto is to live life to the fullest (which includes spending time with family), even with metastatic breast cancer. This is why I write this blog, to share how God is working my life. We saw some amazing things on this great adventure. I hope this inspires you to do something special with your family, kids or grandkids. Are you ready for an adventure? Let’s go!


The Badlands

Although we were on the road for several days, The Badlands were our primary destination, so this blog will focus on that part of the trip. You can read other blogs about our visits to State Capitols and other places.

Tim had an idea to create matching t-shirts, so I got creative. With a little help from Chat GPT, I edited the images to create t-shirts which we had screen printed, and added journals, pens, and stickers from Vista Print to commemorate our trip. The girls and our Facebook friends loved them! What do you think? Tim said we may be setting a precedent for when the other grandkids go on a trip in the future. Not sure if that’s good or bad πŸ₯΄πŸ€”.

Paige opened her goodie bag with a journal, pen, stickers, and t-shirt after we picked her up. Love that smile!

Showing off our matching t-shirts with the trip logo on the chest..
On the back the full design looks like the Badlands..

Day 1. The first day we set up camp at the KOA in Interior, hung around the campground, played games, went swimming, and ate dinner. It was wonderful to get out of the truck after a long day’s drive.

The girls helped us set up, clean up, and overall did a great job of helping out when asked.
Home for a few nights! It’s a beautiful view out our back window.
Ahhh. What a great way to unwind.
I made sourdough pancakes for dinner, which Tim cooked along with scrambled eggs and fresh bacon from the local Amish. The girls loved my pancakes! But, you will see in the video that Yoda got all the credit. πŸ₯΄ Sound on!
This was actually the leftovers. Look at that bacon! SOOO delicious.

Day 2. The Badlands Visitor Center, Wall Drug, Roberts Prairie Dog Town, bison, pronghorn, free roaming cows, one big bull, and lots of beautiful scenery. It was a HOT day.

The couch in our new Classic lays flat into a full size bed. The girls are making their bed, which they did every morning after Yoda showed them how he wanted it done.

The second day was our first real experience in The Badlands. At the Ben Reifel Visitor’s Center, we got our National Park stamp and Jr. Ranger booklet, which the girls completed for a swearing in as Jr. Rangers on the last day.

The girls also picked out a stuffed animal which we purchased at the Visitor’s Center. Paige chose a bobcat and Alison got a black-footed ferret, which as it turns out is the rarest of all North American mammals! They only live in the Roberts Prairie Dog Town, where we went on this day, but the ferrets only come out at night since they are nocturnal. Needless to say, she was talking about the ferret the entire trip. Sadly, we never saw one.

Everywhere we went near Wall, the crowds were mammoth! Nearly as vast as the Badlands themselves. Due to the heat and overpopulation of people, Paige nearly had a panic attack by the time we got to Wall Drug where we had lunch. (It was VERY overstimulating. I wanted out of there too.)

Wall. Sitting on a Jackalope (above), 80 ft dinosaur (below) and world’s largest chainsaw sculpture of a jackalope (right). See Alison in the little window in the top of the Jackalope.

Tonight’s gonna be a good night! The girls were SO excited to see the cows up close, especially the little calves.
Tim, the most adventurous Jedi of us all… “That’s a bull, honey! Don’t get too close to him.” LOL.

Back at the campground, Paige and I stayed in the trailer while Tim took Alison swimming. That gave Paige some “alone” time to regroup and re-energize, and gave me time to take a nap. 😴 She loved the drive back, including the cows, and had a great time from that point on.

Tim made steaks for dinner and we were grateful for the awning and all the shade trees looking down from the sky. We happened to hit the hottest days of the year while we are here. At least it’s not raining and cold.

We hit the hay early, as we planned an early hike the next day. The girls loved their new stuffed animals, and slept with them at night in addition to making up games for their animals to play. Paige took hers with her everywhere we went, even on the hikes. I think they learned something new about conservation today!

Day 3. The third day was predicted to be over 100 degrees so we got an early start to our outside activities, taking advantage of the cooler weather. The sun comes up early here, so even at 6:30 AM it seems rather high in the sky. (It also goes down quite late.) We took in the south loop, had some early morning hikes, visited scenic overlooks like the yellow mounds, went back to Wall for groceries and an ice cream, took pictures at the world’s largest Jackalope chain saw sculpture and an 80 foot dinosaur (above), visited the Minuteman Missile National Historic Site, more swimming, hot dogs for dinner, rest and relax.

A little swim after a HOT day. This was before Tim busted his butt πŸ˜‚πŸ˜©.



Day 4. A few more early morning hikes, pictures by the β€œWorld’s Only 6-Ton Prairie Dog,” feeding the prairie dogs πŸ‘πŸ»πŸ‘πŸ», visiting the Prairie Homestead Historic Site and seeing white prairie dogs, a little more swimming, swearing in of our official Junior Rangers, playing games, eating dinner and watching a movie.

Another very HOT day. We were so glad to get another early morning start and beat the crowds.

We stopped at the famous β€œdoor/window” overlook, and took another short hike across the road from there, but the mosquitos were horrible so it wasn’t as much fun. Yoda shared his hiking tips with the girls, like stepping on a log instead of over it, and they listened. That was fun to witness.

Who’s helping whom? πŸ˜‚πŸ₯΄

The highlight of our day was the Ranch Store, where you can buy peanuts to hand feed the prairie dogs. We have seen a lot of prairie dogs this week, but never so many in one place. Lots of babies with their mommas and families. This is a good place to get photos if you ever visit the Badlands. πŸ₯°

Their individual personalities became evident as mommas groomed their babies, holding their feet still so they would behave. Below is a sequence of the grooming right beside the mound where the girls are feeding the prairie dogs. Quite comical to watch! The prairie dogs weren’t too bothered by visitors in general, and welcomed the easy food.

Back at the campground we encouraged the girls to do their Jr. Ranger activities book. After a few rounds of β€œThis is boring,” and β€œI don’t wanna do it,” they started getting into it and the attitude changed to β€œThis is fun! I’m going to do all of them!”

Alison had to do 8 because she’s older, but she did all 11 because she enjoyed it so much. Paige only had to do 5, which she completed. It is a little more challenging for the younger kids as there is a lot of reading, so Paige was a little harder to motivate. The activities were fun and educational, even for me!

A quick drive before dinner to the Visitor Center is where they were β€œsworn in” by a ranger, the same one who gave them the books on Thursday. Alison did so well on the oath, the ranger gave her a special patch for her effort. We were proud grandparents πŸ₯Ή.

Heading back, a quick stop at the Cowboy Corner (the only grocery store for miles) ended up with empty hands. Tim wanted some ice cream, but he opted out when a tub of off brand was over $10 😳.

Scratching off our 15th National Park. We have actually been here twice before, on the motorcycle. But we weren’t able to go down some of the backroads and we didn’t stay in the park, AND we got to spend it with our two oldest grandchildren, so this was definitely a better experience.

Movie time confirmed how comfie our couch is for movie watching. We have been leaving the bed flat for the girls since the second or third day, rather than putting it up and down every night. It’s SOOO much better than any other Airstream we have owned, and it’s much sturdier than we anticipated easily fitting four or more (little) people. We all sat together on the big bed with our legs up and ate popcorn while watching a movie selected by the girls. They chose β€œWild Robot,” which is definitely a kid’s flick 😜, but entertaining enough. It does have a redeeming message about friendship with unusual characters, motherly love, and recognizing people can change. At least it had some outdoor nature scenes to commemorate our trip πŸ₯°πŸ₯°.

When we came home, Paige’s bobcat was doing this. He might have had a little help from Yoda, but the girls thought it was hilarious.

This was our last night in The Badlands. We could have stayed here several more days as there is so much to do in the area. We didn’t go as far west as Wind Cave National Park, Mount Rushmore or the Black Hills, due to the limited time we had with the girls.

After this, we headed out to Pierre (PEER) where we toured the South Dakota State Capitol and camped on the river before sending the girls home.

I hope you have enjoyed reading about some of the fun things to do with kids in The Badlands! Leave a comment below and let us know what you think! I promise, your email will never be sold or abused.


As promised…

A Little History. We have taken three of our grandchildren on two separate road trips, with Alison being the common denominator (she is the oldest). The first trip was in September 2019, when we took our two oldest grandchildren (Alison, 4 and Paige, 2) on a three-day trip to Arkansas. My mom never got to meet any of my grandchildren since they were all born after she died, so we wanted to give them an opportunity to meet Tim’s mom, their Great-Mama before she died. Paige had a major diaper blow-out on the way up. It was then that we decided no more road trips until they were completely potty trained.

The second trip was a few months later, in June of 2020, when masks were gaining popularity and no one knew exactly what was happening across the country. Tim’s mom was getting older, and if we were going to introduce another grand to their Great-Mama, we needed to do it soon. Alison was now five and her sister Hannah was two, a little younger than Paige was when we took her. We must be gluttons for punishment, or our memory failed us, because we towed diapers once again. Fortunately no blow-outs on that trip.

That was the last trip with our little Jedi for the next five years. Great-Mama started getting ill, and eventually passed away in 2022. We no longer had the same draw to Arkansas, and only three of our seven grandchildren ever got to meet their great-grandmother. My dad died in 2023, so we have no remaining parents to introduce them to, although Alison and Paige met him when he came down to see me after my metastatic breast cancer diagnosis in 2017 (Tim’s dad died many years ago).


Γ€ la prochaine…hasta la prΓ³xima vez…until next time!

*Future Streamers is the name given to children of Airstreamers.

State Capitol 22: South Dakota

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June 23, 2025. Pierre, South Dakota.

While the city was named after a colonial Frenchman who built Fort Pierre across the Missouri River, and it is spelled the French way, the city is pronounced “PEER.” The city itself is worth a visit, as the Missouri River flows through and around the area making for some beautiful scenery. It may not have some of the amenities of a large city, but our campground was in a beautiful location and there are a lot of parks and walkways along the river (picture at the end). The population of Pierre is less than 15,000 (South Dakota only has a million people total).

We had our two oldest granddaughters with us during this visit, as we were on a summer road trip to the Badlands. The Capitol didn’t have any volunteers this week, so we did the self-guided tour. Every State Capitol we visit has some unique features worth mentioning, like the one in the caption below. No wonder some people like living here!

South Dakota has the only capitol building with a black dome. It is made with copper, which patinas over time. Unlike other locations where copper turns green, this dome turned black because the air quality is so high, e.g. no pollution! The girls got a science lesson today. 🀩

This is the first Capitol thus far that allowed us to stamp our own book. They tend to be pretty protective of those stamps! Yet, South Dakota had two different places where you could stamp your own. The picture on the right is in the governor’s office. The girls kept stamping the back of their guide books every chance they got.

Something special the girls spotted was the display of the first lady dresses. (And now there is a first gentleman’s tuxedo, as their current governor is a woman.) This special display is always my favorite as well. Paige liked the slim dress while Alison picked a dress that looks like a quinceaΓ±era gown. We talked about that in the truck later. She said she had not heard of this before, but since her mother is Mexican we assume she will have a quinceaΓ±era celebration when she turns 15.

Inside the rotunda Yoda (his name for grandpa πŸ€¦β€β™€οΈ) continues the tour.

Rotunda means “under the dome.” I think they were more interested in hearing their voices echo in the rotunda than listening to Yoda playing docent πŸ˜‚. Sound on.
From the Rotunda floor to the top center black circle of the dome is 96 feet. It’s another 65 feet above the stained glass to the exterior ball. Not as tall as some others we’ve seen, but pretty impressive!

House and Senate. During the construction of the building in 1910, the House and Senate were each given the same amount of money with which to furnish and decorate their respective chambers. Because the Senate has fewer members, they were able to afford more lush wall treatments and furnishings, including marble wainscotting and cherry wood accents. To match wood tones between the two areas, thanks to the superior craftsmanship of the carpenters, the Senate doors are cherry on the interior and oak on the exterior.

Senate Chambers, decorate in cool green tones, scagliola columns, Vermont White Cloud marble, cherry wood, and African mahogany. After an extensive search for the original 1910 light fixtures came up empty, solid brass replicas were cast and used in restoration. Each of the chandeliers weighs 750 pounds. Also of interest, the largest painting in the building, The Louisiana Purchase, is located here. If you look closely you can see it above the President’s Chair.
Tim briefly describes the purpose of the Senate πŸ˜‚. Sound on.
House of Representatives. The House Chamber is decorated in warm earth-tone colors, decorative plaster and solid oak wood accents. Chandeliers are not original or duplicates; they were removed from the original Federal Court Room in Pierre, also built in 1910, and installed in the Capitol. The House chamber is accented with decorative stenciling and backlit Victorian leaded stained-glass ceiling.
This stained glass fan is in the back of the House gallery, and can be seen from the Senate across the observation railing.

What is it with kids and stairs? They loved jumping from the second step, as we were preparing to leave the building.

Per legend, 66 blue signature stones – each representing a capitol Italian terrazzo artist – are laid in flooring. We didn’t see even one of them, or maybe we saw them but didn’t realize they were special.

Credit goes to the guide book for the wonderful information about the Capitol included in this blog.

Great day at the State Capitol of South Dakota!


We camped for two nights at the Farm Island Recreation Area. It’s so quiet and peaceful there! We had a beautiful spot on the river, with a small sandy beach the girls enjoyed as well.

Γ€ la prochaine…hasta la prΓ³xima vez…until next time!

State Capitol 21: Oklahoma

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Sunday, June 15, 2025. Oklahoma City, Oklahoma.

Tim lived in Oklahoma more than a decade growing up, but he never got to go to the state capitol. They did a renovation project in the early 2000s, so it may have been much different then anyway. We were able to take Alison to this capitol building, and show her the first one she has ever seen. She now knows about Oklahoma and Texas state capitols, as well as the states we have driven through! There is no better education than traveling.

It was pouring the rain for the whole two hours we took to get to the state capitol. You can still see some of the clouds in these photos. Then the skies cleared, and we had a beautiful day. The temperatures dropped so we pulled out light jackets after this.

We are traveling on this adventure with our first grandchild, Alison. She was surprisingly interested in the Capitol!

Going to the Capitol on a Sunday has its benefits as well as disadvantages. At least they are open on the weekend! That was a bonus. We appreciated that, because we were traveling through and the state capitol was right on our drive path. The perfect place to stop and stretch our legs. Know that if you visit this capitol, the entrance on weekdays is on the opposite side of the building from the weekend entrance. I was glad I had read that in advance, as it gave me a heads up on where to park and enter.

We arrived to a nearly empty parking lot, which made pulling the Airstream easier to park than many other places we have visited.

When we got inside, I was reminded they do not have docents working on Sundays. So, we did a self-guided tour based on the link given to us by the security guard at the entrance. (Yes, you have to go through security. Leave your guns at home.) She stamped our capitol passport, twice actually.

This capitol is on Route 66, so they have a stamp for the capitol as well as Route 66. That was a fun little discovery!

Not so small, a nine-foot tall bronze statue stands in the hallway right after we passed through security. He is a replica of the 22-foot statue called “The Guardian,” which was placed on top of the dome in 2002 when they completed the renovation and built the dome. Click on the link above to read more. He’s quite impressive, and stands for a lot.

There is a lot of artwork in this building. On the main floor there are things to look for in the paintings that represent various aspects of Oklahoma, like a bee, a strawberry, red bud trees, a scissor tail flycatcher, and a swallowtail butterfly. We never did find that bee or that strawberry!

The disappointing part of coming on a Sunday was a locked door greeting us at both the House and Senate Chambers. You can’t get in without a docent. They have some beautiful foyers, but we will need to come back another time on a weekday so we can see the chambers.

Lastly, there were some pretty ceiling decorations. As we were leaving the building, a friendly squirrel came running over to see us, but when Alison offered it a potato chip it quickly ran away squeaking and squawking. Too funny!

State Capitol of Oklahoma

Thanks for reading my blog! God is good. He has given me the strength to live life to the fullest. What’s on your bucket list?


Γ€ la prochaine…hasta la prΓ³xima vez…until next time!

West Airstream Adventure: Three Girls and a Driver

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Finally, after months of preparing and planning, our next West Airstream Adventure begins!

I made a custom journal for each of the girls with matching pens, stickers, and t-shirts. It’s going to be so much fun!

After celebrating birthdays for three of our littlest grands (pictures at the end), we picked up our oldest Jedi #1 (Alison) and started with her on a road trip! We drove to our trailer which we left in Thackerville Oklahoma, spent the first night in the Classy Girl together, and now she will join us for the next several drive time devotions and singalongs as we traverse the country. The first bit is a three-day drive where we will also pick up our Jedi #2 (Paige), have a birthday celebration for Jedi #4 Gabriel, and then we will take both girls to the Badlands National Park! The last time we went on a road trip with these two girls they were 5 and 3 (do you remember the big diaper blowout πŸ˜±??). Hard to believe it’s been half a decade, but now they are 10 and 8. It seems like the perfect age to go on a road trip, and since Alison had a big double-digit birthday in March, this is our BIG birthday present for her. We plan to see some sites, find some animals, swim a lot, play games, and much more. We will wrap up in Sioux Falls SD from where I will fly home with Alison while Yoda drives Paige home. Wish us luck! And please pray for an β€œun”eventful trip with no injuries! πŸ™πŸ»

Here are some pictures of our first day on the trip together, followed by a gallery of photos from the big birthday party.

Sleeping on the couch. She is the first visitor to break it in!

Mikayla is 4, Jaxson is 3, and Olivia is 2. They all had birthdays between May 14 and June 30!


Γ€ la prochaine…hasta la prΓ³xima vez…until next time!

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Another Update on the New Home Build

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After my last update blog we learned our new house build would be delayed a bit longer, due some county related issues. They are anticipating a finish date in June or July, but we believe the closing will be closer to August or September.

Based on this knowledge in November, we made a decision to purchase a new Airstream Classic — which we picked up in December — so we could have a bit more elbow room for the time we are living in it full-time. We’ve made some videos about that, and we put them on our YouTube Channel.

We didn’t expect much movement after that, until further into the new year. However, things started picking up in January. On January 7th, the builder held our pre-construction meeting. Soon after that we started seeing forms, footers, plumbing, foundation, and then framing taking place. It’s moving along!

January 5, 2025 – Form is in place. Ready for the pre-construction meeting.
January 20, 2025 – We have some plumbing.
Jan 20, 2025 – King of his garage LOL. That was a cold day, the night before the big snowstorm. Our property didn’t get much, fortunately, but it did delay pouring the foundation by a few days.
February 1, 2025. We are leaving for Florida in a few days, so we took another drive out to the property. We were surprised to see so many sticks in the air! Here’s a picture from the last time we went out to the property, about four days ago.

Now we are heading to Florida for a month, and we are anticipating some real progress by the time we get back into town. I will be flying in for treatment a couple of times before then as well, so maybe, just maybe, I’ll have enough time to drive out and check it out while I’m in the area.

This reminds me of a verse in Isaiah (40:31, NKJV). We are encouraged to be patient, allowing God to do things in His own timing. I don’t mind the wait, to be honest. I love our current life and I look forward to making some more great memories.

But those whoΒ wait on theΒ Lord
Shall renewΒ theirΒ strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles,
They shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.


Γ€ la prochaine…hasta la prΓ³xima vez…until next time!

State Capitol 9: Wyoming

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We toured two State Capitols so close together, I was going to combine them into one blog. We have done so much these past weeks; it’s getting hard to keep it all straight! But then it was getting too long, so you’ll see my Nebraska blog soon.

September 16, 2024 – Cheyenne Wyoming.

This capitol building recently went through a four-year restoration and renovation project, and was closed during that period of time. It reopened to the public in July 2019.

The tour desk lady stamped our passport and gave us some information to get us started, but they only offer a self-guided tour from thereon. There is a video, which we didn’t take time to watch; it probably would have helped us to uncover some of the finer details. They also have a cell phone tour, where you can click on the QR Code at each location to learn more. We were a bit pressed for time, so we walked the floors, talked to a few staffers, looked at the architecture, took some pictures, and read some of the plaques. We did find a few interesting facts that peaked our curiosity, and you will find those in this blog.

This room has two titles on the double entry doors. There was some debate over saving this room, but there is a lot of history here.

Beautiful furniture and fresh flowers on all floors.

The domes in the buildings that have one always catch my eye. In this case there are four bronze statues on the four corners of the third floor worthy of attention. They were added during the restoration project, but were made to look like they have been here since the beginning.

Hope. Sound on to hear Tim reading the description of Hope. On the third floor of the Wyoming State Capitol.
Courage. Sound on to hear Tim read the description of Courage. On the third floor of the Wyoming State Capitol.
Justice. Sound on to hear Tim read the description of Justice. On the third floor of the Wyoming State Capitol.
Truth. Sound on to hear Tim read the description of Truth. On the third floor of the Wyoming State Capitol.

What state holds the title for “first female governor in the United States”? Wyoming, of course. In the governor’s office behind the receptionist is a large portrait of Nellie Tayloe Ross, who was governor from 1925-1927, and remains the only female governor of Wyoming. She was also the first female to be appointed as the Director of the United States Mint. There is a statue of Her Honor in front of the historic governor’s mansion as well.

I’m so grateful I have enough energy to do the things we do. God has given me the gift of more time. Time to live. Time to minister. Time to worship Him, and see His great creation. Time to see some inspiring things made by man. I know not everyone who has cancer is so lucky, but I will continue to live life to the fullest as long as I have enough energy and breath left in my lungs.


Γ€ la prochaine…hasta la prΓ³xima vez…until next time!

House Update #2 – Pipeline

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We got our lot fit for Lot #75, and then the developer called to remind us there is an active pipeline with a 20 foot utility easement running across the front of the property. When we had originally looked at the lot, he led us to believe it was close to the road, near the culvert. As it turned out, the easement was one foot from our front door, and the walkway was on top of the easement 😳😳.

That set us on a journey of discovery.

The developer sent us an additional document from Explorer (the pipeline company) which said that if ever we wanted to do anything over the easement, including paved driveway, we had to send a proposal and they would have up to 180 days to review. SIX MONTHS! And then they could make you change your plan. We were calculating how much time the builder has to do their work, and now we are concerned they have not even started this process. Also, someone from the pipeline has to be present the entire time you do any improvements.

I reached out to my friends on Facebook, and those who have pipelines on their property (which is very common in Texas). They had a variety of things to say. One rancher in particular said he had some horror stories, as well as some not so bad stories. Our main concern was what would happen if they decided to come in and do repairs and broke up our driveway, or our walkway? Would they fix it? Would we have access to our house? How long could it take? Would they mow over any landscaping we might plant (they are responsible for mowing the pipeline easement)? How responsive are they going to be to our inquiries? So many questions raised our DefCon level a notch or two.

We decided to reach out to Explorer and ask some questions before getting too panicky. We called, sent emails, called again, tried and tried, and never could get a response. One guy finally sent an email acknowledging he had gotten the email, but that was the end of his communication. Needless to say, we were not feeling very comfortable about having an Explorer active pipeline on our property.

The builder suggested we change lots, so we started that process.

At this point we were very grateful they had not yet purchased Lot #75. It was still on reserve. The developer had gone up on their prices by about $20-30,000, so switching to another lot was going to be a challenge. Before we left Texas for our northern trip, we went back out to the property and looked at other lots. As it turned out they had just opened access to some other lots we had not seen before. Lot #84, just a few lots down from #75 but outside of the pipeline easement, was a bit smaller (1.0 acre) but it had some advantages over #75. For one, it is relatively square (#75 is a big trapezoid). Also, #84 backs up to some beautiful trees (more, in fact, than #75). It is a bit closer to the front, so they should start pinning those lots sooner 🀞🏻.

We can see progress is happening out there. Lots of heavy equipment are moving dirt around, creating retention ponds, placing culverts, etc. The roads have been graded, and it is easier to see where each lot is located (although still not accurately). We feel pretty confident they will be able to start building soon (hurricanes aside).

All that to say, we have officially switched to Lot #84. The builder CFO had to get involved because the developer wanted to increase our cost to current prices, but he did some magic and we signed the document this week to switch from #75 to #84.

We’ll keep you posted on further progress.


Γ€ la prochaine…hasta la prΓ³xima vez…until next time!

Book Review – These Tangled Vines

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I finished my June book early and started on my book for July (even though we will be traveling). I finished this novel fairly quickly as well. It’s a pretty easy read, and the author keeps your interest as you seek to know more. We were still on Lake Livingston, staying in our Airstream, when I read this book. Lake living sure is relaxing! It’s like a perpetual vacation.

These Tangled Vines, by Julianne Maclean, starts with what we would all love to hear – you just inherited some property in Italy! At least, I would! I’ve never been to Italy but if someone wanted to give me a vineyard, I don’t think I would turn it down.

But I’m getting ahead of myself. 

The book is set in Tuscany and primarily follows three women: Fiona, Lillian, and Sloane. There are spoilers in this review, so if you plan to read the book, SCROLL past the sections with “Spoilers.” πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

The setting was beautiful, as the author described it. I’ve seen pictures of Italy and I would love to go there one day. It seems like such a serene, calm, and peaceful environment. The food would be a bonus! The author did a good job of including enough descriptions to make me wish I was there.

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Fiona Bell is a young woman in her 30s (young to me, anyway). Her perspective is the only one shared in first person, and she is a likable character. She is single with some relationship issues. Fiona was 18 when her mother died, and on her deathbed her mother revealed to Fiona that her fatherβ€”who she has known these past 18 years as her fatherβ€”is not her biological father. (What?? Can you imagine hearing that from your mother on her deathbed?)

Her biological father (Anton) owns a vineyard in Italy, but her mother makes her promise to keep this news a secret from her father, because it would devastate him. The father who raised her has been in a wheelchair her whole life due to a horrible accident in Italy. He had only bad memories of their trip. The dutiful daughter kept her promise for all these years. She didn’t want to hurt her father.

Fiona receives a phone call from a lawyer in Italy, who tells her that her biological father had passed away. He urges her to be there for the reading of the will as she is named as one of the heirs. She was too late to attend the funeral, but if she hurried she could make it in time for the reading of the will. After much contemplation, she lied to her father and his caregiver, got on the next flight to Italy, and began to face her past. Her mother’s past. Her father’s past. It was quite a tangled story, hence the title.

Fiona had always believed Anton to be a man who took advantage of her mother, a womanizer, or some other connotation of negative relationship, so she never sought to know him or attempt to have a relationship with him. She also didn’t want to hurt her disabled father by engaging in an attempt to know him. Little did she know she would be walking into a hornet’s nest with Anton’s two older childrenβ€”who only just learned that they had a half-siblingβ€”with all the implications of her β€œstealing” their inheritance as an illegitimate child, manipulations by her mother, and other serious accusations regarding her character and her intentions.

The second woman followed in the book is Lillian, Fiona’s mother. She and her husband went to Tuscany for a season, while her husband was writing his first novel. She took a job at a vineyard in Tuscany, and the reader is aware that this is the same vineyard which is owned by Fiona’s biological father Anton. The author jumps back and forth in history to share details of the relationship Lillian had with Anton. It was clearly an affair, which both of them seemed to genuinely try not to engage in. He was the perfect gentleman.

Anton’s wife was living in LA with their two children and had recently filed for divorce. They rarely saw each other in spite of his constant begging for her to bring the children. Lillian’s husband was off in Paris writing his novel and was not staying connected to her because, β€œIt’s long distance.” Throughout their marriage, she had put all of her attention onto her husband and his writing career, yet he did not support her desires or needs. One can see how easy it was for her to fall into the arms of another man, regardless of looks or status. She offers some business advice to Anton on marketing the Americans; he is very supportive and complimentary of her ideas and there is a chemistry between them. 

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Aside, that’s how affairs usually get started. Another reminder to support and compliment your spouse. If you don’t, someone else probably is! Give him or her the love they need. 

In all my years of being a marriage therapist, I don’t recall anyone who had an affair tell me they did it β€œon purpose.” (If they did, I would consider an even bigger issue than this.) Their typical response, β€œit just happened.” It started with a conversation, complimentary and support of ideas, a hand on the back, a lengthier conversation, brooding over the individual, and so on. It happened because they didn’t guard their heart. Their spouse didn’t guard their spouse’s heart either, and their spouse was not fulfilling a deep need in their life. I’m not excusing affairs, so please don’t email me and blast me about this. I am not in favor of affairs. And I am not in favor of divorce for the majority of marriages. God hates divorce. However, I do understand how affairs can happen when someone is living in an emotional desert. Perhaps because of my profession I am a bit more understanding of Lillian and her dilemma.

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Anyway, back to the story. Fiona learns through her research and conversations with various staffers that Lillian and Anton’s relationship went beyond a one-night stand or sexual offense. Anton did not take advantage of Lillian as she had previously thought. Their relationship grew over time, and they were very much in love. Lillian had not heard from her husband in weeks. She finally made plans to leave her husband and stay with Anton. But suddenly, her husband returns, was involved in an accident, and became a quadriplegic. I won’t tell you the details of the incident, so as not to spoil theΒ entireΒ story, but it is a juicy part of the story. After the accident, Lillian comes to her senses, says good-bye to Anton, goes back to America with her husband. She spends the rest of her life taking care of his needs. Recompense, perhaps?

The third woman is Sloane, Fiona’s half-sister. Fiona also has a half-brother, Conner. Neither of them stayed in touch with their father after the divorce, and they were both fairly spoiled and entitled individuals. I felt like Conner’s character was a bit one-dimensional as he remained the same throughout the book. Some people are not willing to forgive. Conner and Sloane (and their mother) never knew about Fiona until she arrived for the reading of the will, so they were justifiably angry. They believed she was there to manipulate and take over, and they thought she was there just for the money. She never came to Italy, after all. While Conner remains angry and maintains the bitterness toward Fiona and Lillian, Sloane begins to see the truth about her father, the vineyard at Tuscany, and the situation between Anton and Lillian for what it was. She also has a revelation about herself, her children, and her family. I liked seeing her transformation, which again reminds us that anyone can change, and anyone can forgive. 

Even Fiona. After Fiona learns she has inherited the vineyard (yes, the whole kit and caboodle), she resolves the issues she had with her mother and learned to love her father (Anton). She then goes back home to deal with her stepdad. For her entire life, she had taken up the baton that her mother passed on to her. Just as her mother had given up on her own desires in life, Fiona sacrificed her life to care for her dad. He obviously needs care, but he has also used his disability (and other means prior to the accident) to prevent the women in his life from advancing their own selves. He was afraid of β€œlosing” them, so he held them tight. So tight that Fiona was feeling smothered. She was bitter at him for losing an opportunity to connect to her biological father and wasn’t sure she could ever forgive him. 

I felt like the book wrapped up everything pretty well, but the resolution between Fiona and her dad seemed a bit abrupt. Within one chapter she went from β€œI’m so mad at you” to β€œOkay, I forgive you.” It felt a bit quick after all the chapters that preceded that moment in time, like the author was tired of writing by that point.

Other than thatβ€”dealing with her stepdad issueβ€”I really liked the book. I liked the way it ended, and I liked the overall messages one can draw from it. Lillian’s affair could have been avoided, and this is something all couples should consider, but she would never go back and change it as she has a daughter she loves. While she could have justified leaving her husband, she made the choice of commitment to her wedding vows. It’s way too easy for couples to give it up when things get tough, so I appreciated her decision no matter how difficult. 

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Lessons for couples? Love your spouse. Love is an action word, so show them love in the things you do, say, and time you spend together. Hold your spouse tight but don’t squeeze the breath out of them. Encourage one another to have independence and reach their individual goals, all the while balancing it out focusing on the relationship. Most importantly (not necessarily in the book), developing a relationship with God as a couple will draw the couple closer to each other, and increase their love for each other.

I’m so glad I have a husband who has stuck with me through thick and thin. I’ve heard firsthand stories of men leaving their wives when they are diagnosed with breast cancer. But Tim has been with me, caring for me, and picking up the slack when I have been unable to follow through. He’s a champion!

We haven’t had our book club meeting yet. I would love to be there for the discussion, but I won’t be able to attend this one because we will be traveling. If I remember, I will edit this to include my book club’s review.  I would rate it 8.5.


Γ€ la prochaine Γ  bientot! Until next time…

Book Review – The Midnight Library

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I just realized I never posted this book review, so I’ll back-date it. Tim and I were on our way to watch the Wheel of Fortune taping, so I was unable to make it to the book club meeting in January. There should be a post about that bucket list item somewhere in my blog list 🀩.

This picture was taken on chemo day. I often take books to read and an engaging discussion with my nurse ensues. Often they write down the titles, or give me suggestions from their book clubs.

We read The Midnight Library by Matt Haig, an intriguing book about the concept of “parallel universes.” I recall a Seinfeld episode about this concept! The book explores many of the potential branches in the life of Nora. She is transported into that life, to live as though she had made a different decision. It provides great insight into how one’s life of regrets, decisions, and relationships, may not have turned out any better than the actual life he or she has lived.

I sent my review via the following email, as we flew out the day of the meeting.

“We are standing in line waiting for our plane to board. I hope y’all are having a good meeting! I wish I could be there for this discussion. I’m curious what others think.Β 

I still have 50 pages left, and I’ll probably finish it on the plane [I did]. Nora just entered her β€œperfect life” with Ash and daughter Molly. It is a rather captivating book, so it wasn’t for lack of desire; I’ve just been busy this month.

Interesting concept of parallel universes. Certainly makes you think about those Deja vu moments in life. Also made me think about some past regrets. Choices I might have liked to change, but after seeing Nora’s life experiences with overcoming those regrets and the ensuing consequences, it makes me glad to have this life and just live with my choices. Her alternate lives did have some valuable lessons. Maybe we can learn from that as well. I’d rather remember a life that isn’t perfect than to have no memory of it at all.

Lastly, I loved the Thoreau references. Makes me want to read some more of his work.Β 

Anyway, just a few thoughts before I get on the plane. I would rate it an 8.0.

I did finish the book, and I liked the way it ended.

Here’s what the group said.

Good Afternoon Ladies!!!! Β Eight of us gathered to discuss The Midnight Library by Matt Haig. Β Our discussion varied immensely about β€œregrets” and different outcomes that your life can take or could have taken. Β Some of us had a hard time getting into the book with the countdown of Nora’s death in the first nine chapters. Β But once Nora goes to her different realities or β€œlives” the book gets very interesting. Β We described the book as self discovery and discussed the good and bad of her different realities. Β Each of us thought about how important it is to live and let go. Β We loved the reality of her with a family but Nora realized that she didn’t earn that life and decided she wanted to live and earn her own life. Β 
We rated the book an 8.3.


I’d love to hear your thoughts about a parallel universe, or if you have read this books what are your thoughts? Please comment below. It will prompt you to input your email address, but I promise I will never sell it. This is just to ensure you are a real person and not a robot.


Γ€ la prochaine…hasta la prΓ³xima vez…until next time!

“Just Waitin’ on You, Babe”

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MD Anderson, The Woodlands. They are adding more handicap parking. I was hoping it would be done by now.

Today is scan day at MD Anderson. I just checked in and I’m waiting for my first appointment…Wow…They just called my name. Much quicker than I expected. To be continued…


I’m back. I felt so frumpy πŸ€ͺ😜πŸ€ͺ. They gave me scrubs and the pants drag the ground. Also, the nurse didn’t like the top because it was a bit tight to access the port. She gave me a gown instead, then the next person gave me a second gown to cover the gaps πŸ₯΄πŸ€£πŸ˜‚ from the first gown. But “you can wear your boots” πŸ˜‚πŸ€ͺπŸ₯΄. Yeah, I looked frumpy πŸ™‡β€β™€οΈπŸ˜– . Sorry, I missed getting a picture of that πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.

I got weighed, port accessed, injected with nuclear medicine, drank the raspberry flavored contrast, had my chest-abdomen-pelvis CT scan, then my port was de-accessed. A little trouble with the port being tighter today, but they decided it was okay to go on with a slower input of contrast.


After all that, I went to the Market Place on the second floor where I currently sit. I have about 75 minutes between scans, so I ate breakfast and opened my computer.

I like sitting here because you don’t have to wear a mask while you are eating and drinking. I’m waiting for the nuclear medicine to paint my body; I’m scheduled to go back for the bone scan at 12:00 and then the mammogram at 12:35.


Tim dropped me off this morning and went to Panera Bread around the corner to work while he waits. (I’m sure his lunch will be better than mine πŸ˜‚πŸ€©.) Actually, I had brunch. Oatmeal and fruit+nut trail mix. They installed a self-pay kiosk in the Market Place, but I wanted hot tea so I went to the cashier today. It will be helpful when I want a snack and the cashier is unavailable, which is quite often!

My husband is always waiting on me. He has probably completed a million games of Solitaire on his phone while waiting for me. Two reasons I can think of that lead to him saying, “Just waitin’ on you, Babe!” First, I’m slow. Second, he’s fast!

I admit it. I’m slower than most people. I’d like to say it’s because I’m old—and I probably have slowed down even further with age—but no, I’m just slow. I have a hard time getting up when I’m sitting down. My ankles and knees take a moment to get into first gear. My steps are cautious, and I think things throughnbefore making a decision. That includes where to put my foot πŸ˜‚πŸ€ͺ.

Tim, on the other hand, is faster than most people. He completes ten tasks in the time it takes others to complete two or three tasks. And they are done well! I don’t know how he does it. His stride is long and when he gets to thinking it speeds him up. Thinking slows me down.

Some might say we are incompatible, but we’ve learned how to adjust. It does present a challenge when we walk together, and it’s sometimes a problem when we are getting ready to go somewhere. But he has learned to adapt to my speed and sometimes (albeit rarely), I speed up to match his stride.

After nearly forty of years of marriage, his mantra never changed. I doubt it ever will. “Just waitin’ on you, Babe!”


Γ€ la prochaine…hasta la prΓ³xima vez…until next time!